Maybe there’s hope
Award-winning author Tim O‚ÄôBrien‚Äôs little son, Tad, saw a stack of papers on his dad‚Äôs desk and asked if the papers were going to become a book. Dad explained that sometimes books end up in trash cans because they just aren‚Äôt good enough.
Tad followed up by asking if this book was good enough, would it be a book. When Dad said, ‚ÄúMaybe,‚ÄĚ Tad‚Äôs eyes lit up and he shot back, ‚ÄúWell, you‚Äôll have to call it that. You‚Äôve got to call it your maybe book.‚ÄĚ Hot off the press this month is Tim O‚ÄôBrien‚Äôs ‚ÄúDad‚Äôs Maybe Book.‚ÄĚ
I use the words ‚Äúmaybe‚ÄĚ or ‚Äúmay be‚ÄĚ more often than I once did. This wording is designed for things that are possible but uncertain.
O‚ÄôBrien said in an interview, ‚ÄúThe only wisdom that I have from growing old is the wisdom of knowing that I don‚Äôt know everything and that I‚Äôm wrong as often as I am right.‚ÄĚ He says that what he learned from his years soldiering in Vietnam, and then from decades maturing after Vietnam, is that ‚Äúabsolutism‚ÄĚ can kill people, and has.
Our 11-year-old granddaughter shared with me something she read somewhere that she knew I would like. It is now secured by a magnet on our refrigerator: ‚ÄúHope is the little voice you hear whisper ‚Äėmaybe‚Äô when it seems the entire world is shouting ‚ÄėNo!‚Äô ‚ÄĚ
Maybe we‚Äôll live to see a new era where nastiness and meanness, bullying and name-calling no longer reign. Maybe that new regime will specialize in and model consideration toward one another.
I like what Emily Post said: ‚ÄúManners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.‚ÄĚ
Will a time of mutual consideration ever come?